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VISITATION MANUAL: An Open Door
Revelation 3:8 Bob D. Smith Revised 2008 Travis Main INTRODUCTION WHERE DID THIS MATERIAL COME FROM?The following material is presented as a work of a gentleman
by the name of Bob D. Smith. He created
the bulk of this booklet prior to the mid-1960’s when
it was reprinted as a local church work. In revision and update, I have added new
material from Kevin Cauley of the Southwest School of Preaching in SYSTEMATIC VISITATIONThe ideal congregation is one in which all the members are
working and contributing to the planned program of scriptural activities. This
is true because: (1) such work is essential to the individual’s fulfilling his
mission as a Christian. (2) Such work contributes to the individual’s spiritual
vitality; (3) Such a situation means that the Church
is instrumental in saving souls, whether they be in God’s fami1y or yet
outside. Whatever contributions the
Church makes in the community of a social, cultural, or ever benevolent nature
are wholly incidental to its concern for souls. WE NEED TO MEET THE CHALLENGE MORE EFFICIENTLY. The potential of most Church visitation programs is great. A good working force of Christians who want to work for the Lord can accomplish much. Yet, they often need to be meeting this great challenge with more efficiency and devotedness. There are weak and delinquent members of the congregation who need admonition, exhortation, or rebuke. There are a number of families of the Lord’s people represented who are wholly out of duty, not attending anywhere, which we know about. And there are scores of non-members who have shown an interest in some way who need attention, to say nothing of the thousands who have never heard of real, New Testament Christianity. ESTABLISHING
A PROGRAM. A program
structure designed to meet this challenge can be effectively matched to most
all congregations. Imagine the area in
which you live will be divided into zones. These zones are arranged so that
there is a fairly equal distribution of members in each one. All the members in
the congregation, who will, are asked to participate. A file will be kept by
the elders on all prospects or members who need assistance. Visitation for the
most part will be within the respective zones of the callers, with a few
exceptions. They are to be made IN
ADDITION to those you make on your own. In fact, you are urged to make
other contacts whenever you can and to make them in any zone where you see an
opportunity. Feel free to consult the elders regarding the member files for
additional information to make your work more effective. VISUAL1ZE WHAT WILL HAPPEN. If at least an average of three families from each zone participates (example 7 zones) and makes one call each month, that will mean twenty-one calls each month in addition to those that some are making each week on their own. Over a period of time it ought to produce inspiring results if you do your part. Not only will souls be won and God’s children restored, but you will grow as well. PURPOSE AND USE OF THIS BOOKLETWHY THIS BOOKLET? There are three common problems encountered in a systematic visitation program. (1) A lack of information on the part of many as to the nature and specific purposes of the program (2) Trouble in arranging a suitable schedule so the majority of the members may participate (3) A sense of insecurity on the part of those who are inexperienced. In approaching this work, there has been an attempt to largely eliminate all three of these problems. (1) Each zone is given a detailed description of the work in, small, informal meetings. (2) The program allows for a flexible time period in which the calls are to be made. (3) This booklet has been prepared to assist those inexperienced in this work by proposing some answers to the questions which commonly plague them. HOW TO USE IT. When you receive a contact notice, note the type of contact which has been checked. Turn to the section in this booklet which deals with that particular type of visit. You will find, answers to twelve questions which are pertinent to such calls. The answers given to these are not intended to be final answers in any case, and they are only intended to be suggestive at best. Use them only as suggestions adapting them to the particular call which you have been asked to make. Apply those which are most suitable to you. Make your call as personal as you can and not professional. Don’t mention that you were asked to make the call. They should feel that you came to see them because you wanted to, not because you were asked and that should be your attitude. DON’T GIVE UP EASILYYou will meet problems, most of which will have no connection with the amount of experience you have had. Some people will offer all kinds of excuses for their negligence when you call on them. Others will expect you to visit them often or to do what they refuse to do, but will not make calls themselves. A small minority will resent your visit. But those lovable characters who manifest real appreciation; the joy of seeing those you have visited become more interested and obedient to the gospel will more than compensate for the disappointments. You will know a satisfaction that can only come to those who have developed a genuine interest in the souls of their fellows. COMMON WORRIESI DON’T KNOW ENOUGH SCRIPTURE TO DO THIS PROPERLY:When will you know enough scripture to visit a brother or sister who just needs your presence? Does it require scripture to give a senior Christian a ride to the store? If it required scripture to greet a new member to the community, we would never become acquainted with new neighbors. Yes, knowing scripture is valuable, but you have brothers and sisters in Christ to aid you in this opportunity. READ Luke 11:9 I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO OR SAY:This booklet is designed to guide you in what to say and do. Having a plan and a purpose for your words and actions provides comfort. Still, there is no perfect method. Study this booklet, talk to those with experience, pray about your concerns, and ask God for help. Remember, you will not be alone unless you want to be. READ James 1:5, Rom. 8:31 I AM TOO BUSY TO SPEND THE TIME: There is no question that we can fill our life to
the brim with activities. Television, shopping,
internet, sports, recreation, making money… these activities are part of most
of our lives. But what is your
priority? Have you not an hour or two
out of 168 hours a week to be about your “Father’s
business”? READ
Matt. 6:33, CONTENTS I.
V1SITED OUR SERVICES 1 II.
MEMBER
HASN’T BEEN PRESENT RECENTLY 3
III.
CONFINED
AT HOME BY SICKNESS DISABILITY 5 IV.
SENIOR MEMBERS/WIDOWERS 7 V.
NEW MEMBER 9 VI.
ATTENDS SOME
HAS NOT “PLACED MEMBERSHIP” 11 VII.
HOSPITAL 14 VIII.
INTERESTED
IN IX.
MEMBER NEEDS
FRIENDS 19 X.
MEMBER NEEDS
CONSOLATION 21 XI. NEWCOMERS TO COMMUNITY 23 XII. COLD CALLING / DOOR TO DOOR 25 I.
VISITED
OUR SERVICES -1- 1.
WHAT DO I
HOPE TO ACHIEVE BY THIS VISIT? This is a case where a person or persons have attended our
services, probably on the previous Sunday. They may or may not be members of
the 2.
SHOULD I TELEPHONE
BEFORE GOING? In many contacts of this kind, you will not know or have access to the telephone number. It will not be necessary to call, though, for they have indicated on the visitor’s card (in most instances) that you may call on them. Just use good judgment in selecting a time to visit. 3.
WHEN SHOULD
I GO? It is better if you can make the visit before the next Sunday. (1) It’s easier to show that you are interested in them if you call as soon after their having attended as you can and (2) it may encourage them to be there the very next Sunday when otherwise they might go somewhere else, especially if they are “shopping around.” As to time of day various things will effect your choice. If it is a couple or family, you probably would want to wait till evening to visit when they are more likely to be at home. If it’s a woman, an afternoon call might be better. Try to select a time when you think it would be most convenient for them. 4.
SHOULD I GO
ALONE? Your decision here will vary depending upon the contact. If it is a couple you are calling on, it would be better for you to take your companion, where feasible, or another member with you. If it is a woman, a woman could call alone or take another female member with her. Similarly for men. 5.
WHAT SHALL I
DO WHEN I GET THERE? When you first get to this home after you introduce
yourself, you should mention that you are from the 6.
WHAT SHALL I
TALK ABOUT? Keep in mind the purpose of your visit. Show an interest in and get acquainted with the members of the family where possible, much the same as you would a new, next-door-neighbor. Talk about the neighborhood, the schools, your jobs, sports, your family etc. Try to establish some personal contact between you and the family and tell them you would like for them to meet your family where feasible. Avoid arguments and antagonistic attitudes on any subject, especially on the first visit. In the course of the conversation, try to secure the following information if you do not already know it. (1) If one or more are members of the Church: Find out how many of them are members; where they last had their membership; how long they have been members of the Church; number of children and approximate ages; if children in Sunday school; if they seem to have been fairly active in the Church in the past; how long they have been living here. (2) If none are members of the Church of Christ: Find out where they have been attending; how they came to attend your services; number of children and approximate ages; if children are in Sunday school, etc. VISITED OUR SERVICES (Continued) -2- (Don’t quiz them like a census taker, but attempt to pick up this information while conversing. Jot it down on your report sheet when you get home.) 7.
SHOULD I
LEAVE ANY WRITTEN MATERIAL? Plan to have some cards available, which will list the schedule of services, and a few other pertinent items that will be appropriate to give on such a visit. If they make specific inquiries about the Church, you might answer briefly and promise to mail or bring by a tract which will deal with the inquiry. (You’ll often find a good selection of tracts in the tract racks or in your preacher’s/elders’ own personal study – yes, they can’t resist grabbing tracts everywhere they go! ) 8.
HOW LONG
SHOULD I STAY? The first visit should not be a prolonged one. It is much better to make a short, friendly visit rather than a long, boring one. You can usually determine when you have overstayed your welcome by the flow of conversation. Stay long enough to at least become acquainted (sometimes 15 minutes would suffice); don’t prolong the conversation merely because you can. (An hour is usually long enough for any first visit). 9.
WHAT
ARRANGEMENTS SHOULD I MAKE BEFORE LEAVING? Try to get a definite commitment. Ask if it will be possible for them to be in attendance again next Sunday. If you know, tell them what the sermon subject is to be. Invite them to come for Bible study. If the parents are hesitant, volunteer to come by for the children next Sunday and set a definite time when you will be by. They are more likely to come when they have made some such commitments. 10.
WHAT
SHOULD I REPORT? Your report is to be written on the back of your contact notice. Give the date and time of day you made your visit. Indicate whether it was a good time of day for the family schedule. List the information mentioned under question 6 which you were able to secure. Indicate how you were received whether friendly or indifferent. What response did they manifest toward the service they attended? Did they indicate whether they plan to return? If members, did they indicate if they plan to have their fellowship with you? File the report with the elders / at the building. 11.
HOW WILL THIS REPORT BE USED? The congregation will keep a record of the number of contacts made in each zone and the visit results from the program. Reports will be given out regularly. Besides the statistics, the information on the reports will be used for follow-up contacts. 12.
AM I THROUGH WITH THIS CONTACT AFTER THE
ONE VISIT? Continue to show an interest in this contact after your first visit. If they are present the following Sunday, be sure to greet them and introduce them to others. If you can, have them home with you if not then, at an early date where feasible, and you can, have other members in at the same time. If they aren’t present the following Sunday, go by or call and find out why. If they are not members and continue to show interest, ask about arranging a weekly study period with them in their home. If they are members, encourage them to have their fellowship with the congregation and to let the brethren know. Try to promote some visible response on their part as you come to know them. II.
MEMBER
HASN’T BEEN PRESENT RECENTLY -3- 1.
WHAT DO I
HOPE TO ACHIEVE BY THIS VISIT? This person or persons has identified with the congregation, but they have not attended any of the Sunday services lately or have been irregular in attendance. Your purpose is to show an interest in them by your visit. If you personally have missed them, convey this to them. Try also to make them feel that they are missing something. Before going, ask God’s help in manifesting a genuine concern in them, in the spirit of meekness, Read Galatians 6:1-2. 2.
SHOULD I
TELEPHONE BEFORE GOING? (1) If you know the people well enough, you might want to plan something to do with them such as a shopping date, an afternoon of sewing, etc. (in the case of women); or a sports event, etc. (in the case of men) or perhaps a dinner date at your house if it is a family involved. This is a situation where such arrangements might be more effective than a visit at their home. You would need to telephone in such cases. (2) If you are not intimately acquainted, a call beforehand wouldn’t be necessary. Select a good time and stop by for a short visit. 3.
WHEN SHOULD
I GO? This situation may not be as urgent as some. However, there is quite possibly a problem an early contact might help solve. The time of day you select will depend upon the type of call you decide on. (See answer to question. 2.) A time could be arranged if you telephone. If you decide just to drop by an afternoon call might be best for contacting a woman, an evening call for visiting a family or a male member. Of course, your schedule will help decide. 4.
SHOULD I GO
ALONE? (1) In the event it is one person you are to contact and you know them well enough to discuss things rather freely, it might be best to be alone with them. If it is a family you are to contact, it would probably be best for you and your companion, where feasible, to be involved. (2) If it is a woman you don’t know well, a woman could go alone but she probably will want to take another lady with her. Similarly for men. 5.
WHAT SHALL I
DO WHEN I GET THERE? (1) If you know them well, don’t make this particular visit with them conspicuously different from previous times you have been with them. (2) If you haven’t had many occasions to be with them in the past, make sure that when you arrive that they know who you are and that you are from the Church. Indicate that you just stopped by for a few minutes chat. 6.
WHAT SHALL I
TALK ABOUT? (1) When it is a rather close friend or couple, discuss things of common interest as you ordinarily would. However, definitely include allusions to the Church and its work. Perhaps they will volunteer the reason for not having been present lately, giving you an opportunity to encourage them. Talk about the good points of the work of the congregation. MEMBER HASN’T BEEN PRESENT RECENTLY
(Continued) Try to overcome critical attitudes don't make it a session to gossip about fellow members and avoid arguments where possible. (2) Become better acquainted if you don’t know the family well. Learn about the family members. Establish a personal contact between your family and theirs where feasible. They may not confide all their problems but try to convey that they are missing a lot by not being present. Tell them of the things the Church is doing (proposed gospel meetings, building program etc.). Tell them about the class work that would apply to their family and what is being studied if possible; tell what attendance has been averaging lately. Help them to see that they are needed and that they cannot continue as they have been and be pleasing to God. Make them want to come. 7.
SHOULD I
LEAVE ANY WRITTEN MATERIAL? In most instances, they will know what their duty in the matter is. Your purpose is largely to cause them to want to do it by your interest and exhortation. Therefore, it is probably best not to leave material except in a few instances. 8.
HOW LONG
SHOULD I STAY? (1) You can judge that if you are well acquainted with them. (2) If not well acquainted you probably won’t want to make it a prolonged visit, (15 min. to an hour would be long enough in most cases.) 9.
WHAT
ARRANGEMENTS SHOULD I MAKE BEFORE LEAVING? Ask if they will be able to come to services the next Sunday. Impress upon the parents the importance having their children (where present) in Bible study class – Their child’s attendance is not only personally beneficial, but encourages the other children. Volunteer to go by, where possible, if transportation is the problem. Be specific. Set a time when you will be by for them in such an event, (if transportation is the problem be sure to note it on your report.) 10.
WHAT
SHOULD I REPORT? Note the date and time of your call on the back of your contact notice. Also indicate the nature of their reception, whether friendly or not. State what seems to be the problem and how you think it might be solved where possible by the date shown on your contact notice. File the report with the elders / at the building. 11.
HOW
WILL THE REPORT BE USED? Besides adding the contact report to the zone records, the elders will use the information and suggestions on it for follow-up work. Perhaps the elders will need to make further inquiry. 12.
AM I
THROUGH WITH THE CONTACT AFTER THE ONE VISIT? It they are present the next Sunday, be sure to greet them and tell them, how glad you are that they came. If they don’t come, call them or drop by again later on. Have them into your home with other members where feasible. Watch for them for several Sundays until they seem to be over the stress period. Afterward, follow-up this accomplishment by encouraging them to have part in the other services and activities of the Church besides those on Sunday morning such as the men’s or ladies’ “Thursday” morning class. Sell the whole family on the value of the mid-week service. Remember James 5:20. III.
CONFINED
AT HOME BY SICKNESS, DISABILITY -5- 1.
WHAT DO I
HOPE TO ACHIEVE BY THIS VISIT? Your main purpose in making this call will be to provide a
little cheer and sunshine. Radiate cheerfulness and optimism. You may be able
to lend assistance around the house also.
This is especially true where unexpected sickness is involved. In most cases, they will be members of the
Church. Otherwise, they will be closely associated with someone who is. Remember that we are all servants of one
another. Count your blessings before you
go. Ask the Lord to help you see the good in all situations. Read Philippians 4:4-13. 2.
SHOULD I
TELEPHONE BEFORE GOING? A phone call before going will not be necessary in most instances. Most sick and shut-ins, except in extra serious or contagious cases, are glad to have someone drop by for a visit. If there is a question as to the advisability of a visit at the time you have planned, then a telephone call would be in order. 3.
WHEN SHOULD
I GO? In the case of sickness, you more apparently show that you are interested if you call as soon after you learn of the illness as you can. This is especially true in emergencies where you may render some special service. Either morning, afternoon, or early evening calls are suitable. Avoid early or late hours and mealtime. 4.
SHOULD I GO
ALONE? Yes, if you prefer. This is especially true where you know the person rather well. There, of course, is nothing wrong with taking a friend or your companion along. Be careful that you don’t take too many for a large number at once might disturb the contact. 5.
WHAT SHALL I
DO WHEN I GET THERE? Introduce yourself to the one who greets you at the door if you do not know them. Explain the purpose of your call and find out if it is all right for you to visit at that time. Make sure that the person you have come to see knows who you are and that you are from Church. 6.
WHAT SHALL I
TALK ABOUT? Bring them up to date on what the Church has been doing its attendance, contributions, work program, responses, etc., especially if they are members. Talk about mutual friends and those about whom they particularly inquire. Avoid gossiping or finding fault with either the Church or individual members. If you discuss their condition, do so with optimism. Do not tell them about your friend who died with the same trouble. Only relate your own’ troubles to show how you conquered them and not to emphasize how you suffered. Those who are confined, especially older people, like to hear the Bible read. Have in mind some appropriate passages and if there is a Bible handy, ask if they would like for you to read a little. Prayer is also appreciated. CONFINED AT HOME BY SICKNESS, Disability (Continued) -6- 7.
SHOULD I
LEAVE ANY WRITTEN MATERIAL? Books or good gospel literature are appropriate to leave under such circumstances if the person’s condition and sight allow him to read. Try to select something appropriate. Flowers, some small gift, or a special dish they like are always in order if you care to take them. These tend to lend cheer. 8.
HOW LONG
SHOULD I STAY? It will depend upon the physical condition of the one you are visiting as well as how well you know them. If able, many who are confined like to visit. Don’t rush off in such instances. In other cases a short visit might be preferable (say 15 minutes). 9.
WHAT
ARRANGEMENTS SHOULD I HAVE BEFORE LEAVING? Be alert to any real needs. If they need groceries, if they could use help around the house, if they need some one to care for children, let others know and try to render assistance where merited. Inquire if there is anything you can do. They might be interested in a particular religious problem if they aren’t members. If they seem sufficiently interested, inquire if you might send a tract on the subject. 10.
WHAT
SHOULD I REPORT? State the date and time of day of your visit on the back of your contact notice. Report their attitude toward your visit and toward the Church, which you were able to sense. Report any special needs, which you could not meet alone. If a non-member, note whether they showed any particular interest in the Church and the gospel. See that the contact notice is returned with your report on the back by the date shown on it. File the report with the elders / at the building. 11.
HOW
WILL THIS REPORT BE USED? It will be numbered with the contacts made in your zone and included in the elders monthly report. If there are any needs reported, they will be looked into and met where feasible. If the case warrants, others will make calls and be able to do a more effective job because of the information you have supplied than they otherwise could have. 12. AM I THROUGH WITH THIS CONTACT AFTER THE ONE VISIT?Since you were interested in making the first call, you will want to check on them by phone or another visit at various times in the case of prolonged confinement. If they are up before long, be sure to greet them and let them know you are happy for them. Such an interest at such a time may go a long way in strengthening a weak member spiritually or in encouraging a non-member to be more concerned about his soul. They will probably think warmly of you and remember you for some time for being so thoughtful. IV.
SENIOR
MEMBERS / WIDOWERS -7- 1.
WHAT DO I
HOPE TO ACHIEVE BY THIS VISIT? These brothers and sisters are long within the church. They have been on the giving end of love, cheer, and service throughout their lives. The love of the Church is still there, but the load has perhaps become a bit heavier with time. Your purpose is to show them honor and fellowship and Christian service. Perhaps many of their good friends or even a spouse have gone to their heavenly home. They may not see their children or others with frequency anymore. Your presence could be the sunshine in their window. READ Lev 19:32, Prov 16:31, Prov 23:22, Eph 6:1-2 1 Tim 5:1-2 2.
SHOULD I
TELEPHONE BEFORE GOING? A phone call before going will not be necessary in most instances. Most seniors are glad to have someone drop by for a visit. If there is a question as to the advisability of a visit at the time you have planned, then a telephone call would be in order. 3.
WHEN SHOULD
I GO? An early morning to afternoon visit is advisable. Senior Christians, depending upon their age and health, may begin to tire as the day wears on. Catching them when they are feeling more energetic will be greatly welcomed. 4.
SHOULD I GO
ALONE? Yes, if you prefer. If you have children, they too may be appreciated. However, use common sense in the case of a younger more active child. Fears of things being broken or the blur of a toddler can be overwhelming. There, of course, is nothing wrong with taking a friend or your companion along. 5.
WHAT SHALL I
DO WHEN I GET THERE? Our Senior members have a lifetime of experiences and knowledge, frequently sitting for coffee or tea produces great conversation. Many also are willing to share talents they have picked up over the years (sewing, fly tying, scrapbooking, etc. There is a wealth of joy and guidance waiting to be shared with our senior members. Many members who have reached these blessed years are often in need of small services. They may need to be driven to the store, have wood brought in for the stove, dishes washed, small fix-its waiting to be worked on, and a host of other scenarios. The simple pleasure of reading may now be gone as well, as eyes may have faded. Reading the Bible or their favorite magazine may be a welcome service. 6.
WHAT SHALL I
TALK ABOUT? Bring them up to date on what the Church has been doing, its attendance, contributions, work program, responses, etc. Talk about mutual friends and those about whom they particularly inquire. Avoid gossiping or finding fault with either the Church or individual members. In your conversations always show your thankfulness for advice given. Knowing that they can be useful in another’s life is encouraging. As mentioned previously, senior brothers and sisters like to hear the Bible read. Have in mind some appropriate passages and if there is a Bible handy, ask if they would like for you to read a little. Prayer is also appreciated. SENIOR MEMBERS / WIDOWERS (Continued) -8- 7.
SHOULD I
LEAVE ANY WRITTEN MATERIAL? There will likely not be any need to leave written materials. However, small tokens such as flowers, pictures from children, etc. will be warmly received. 8.
HOW LONG
SHOULD I STAY? It will depend upon the energy level of the one you are visiting as well as how well you know them. If able, many senior Christians like to visit. Don’t rush off in such instances. If possible, plan to spend at least an hour, but be aware of any fatigue on the member’s part and act appropriately. 9.
WHAT
ARRANGEMENTS SHOULD I HAVE BEFORE LEAVING? Be alert to any real needs. If they need groceries, if they could use help around the house, let others know and try to render assistance where merited. Inquire if there is anything you can do. 10.
WHAT
SHOULD I REPORT? State the date and time of day of your visit on the back of your contact notice. Report any special needs, which you could not meet alone. See that the contact notice is returned with your report on the back by the date shown on it. File the report with the elders / at the building. 11.
HOW
WILL THIS REPORT BE USED? It will be numbered with the contacts made in your zone and included in the elders monthly report. If there are any needs reported, they will be looked into and met where feasible. If the case warrants, others will make calls and be able to do a more effective job because of the information you have supplied than they otherwise could have. 12. AM I THROUGH WITH THIS CONTACT AFTER THE ONE VISIT?If you are able, you will want to check on them by phone or another visit at various times. Even a short call to let them know you had them in your thoughts will be appreciated. Such an interest may go a long way in helping them avoid the feeling of loneliness. They will probably think warmly of you and remember you for some time for being so thoughtful. V.
NEW
MEMBER -9- 1.
WHAT DO I
HOPE TO ACHIEVE BY THIS VISIT? A person may have been recently baptized and is therefore a new member of the Lord’s body. He may have recently indicated a desire to have fellowship with this congregation and be a new member of the local Church. In either event, each case can benefit by your visit. They need to feel at home and to be given any spiritual assistance necessary. They need to become acquainted with the members, with the schedule of work, and services. Your visit will help to meet these needs; your interest will mean a great deal. 2.
SHOULD I
TELEPHONE BEFORE GOING? It might be well to call in advance, or perhaps better still, say something to them at services about your plans to stop by for a little while one evening, specifying the evening. There’s nothing wrong though with just stopping by for a short visit without advance warning if you prefer. 3.
WHEN SHOULD
I GO? Your interest in them should prompt you to go as soon after their response as you can. This will convey a message of welcome, which a later visit would miss. An evening call is best when you are calling on a family. Even where only one of the family is a member, a visit at night may give you an occasion to meet the companion who isn’t a member and open another door. An afternoon call, especially when the party is a woman, is not ruled out. 4.
SHOULD I GO
ALONE? It is better for a couple (man and wife) to call where feasible when calling on a family. If you choose to go in the daytime, ask another member to go along unless you prefer to go atone. 5.
WHAT SHALL I
DO WHEN I GET THERE? Make sure they remember who you are and that you are from the Church. If they are new in the community, they may have difficulty recalling names. Don’t embarrass them with guessing games about who you are. 6.
WHAT SHALL I
TALK ABOUT? Spend some time getting better acquainted. The probability is that you do not know them very well, discuss their family, their work etc. Convey to them how you feel about the new convert who has recently come into our fellowship. Let them know that the congregation is happy to have them in their midst. Tell them about the congregation. Note briefly its history. Make sure they know whom the elders and deacons are. Emphasize the schedule of services and encourage them to participate fully. Make explanations about Bible classes and the material that is being studied, if you can. Talk enthusiastically about work programs, orient them to our procedures, and help them to see how they may be useful. In the case of a new convert, he may have some Biblical question he would like to have help with. Assist there if you can. NEW MEMBER (Continued) -10- 7.
SHOULD I
LEAVE ANY WRITTEN MATERIAL? In the case of a new convert, he may desire advice regarding periodicals or books that are available in the brotherhood. You might let him see some you subscribe to. There may be some acts that would be helpful in dealing with some questions he may have. Be sure that in either case that this contact has one of the directories to help him become better acquainted with the members. 8.
HOW LONG
SHOULD I STAY? Stay long enough to get acquainted, don’t prolong your stay needlessly, however. An hour or hour and a half will usually be long enough. It doesn’t need to be that long to be successful. The important thing is to be friendly, warm, and congenial. When you have gotten acquainted and informed them a little about our work leave. 9.
WHAT
ARRANGEMENTS SHOULD I MAKE BEFORE LEAVING? Leave the impression that you will expect to see them at the next service of the congregation. Encourage them to start the practice of attending all the services from the first. You might make plans with them to have them over for a meal at a date in the near future. If weather permits, you might plan an outing or picnic and invite others from the Church along. 10.
WHAT
SHOULD I REPORT? On the back of your contact notice, put the date and time of your visit. Report any facts about the family, which would be useful such as the number of children, if others in the family are prospects, etc. If they seem to have ability and experience along certain lines that might be utilized, note that. File the report with the elders / at the building. 11.
HOW
WILL THIS REPORT BE USED? It will be recorded and used in the zone reports. The elders and others can utilize any information about their abilities. Others can also make use of it in getting acquainted with these new members within the next two or three weeks. 12.
AM I
THROUGH WITH THIS CONTACT AFTER THE ONE VISIT? Continue to show an interest in them. The first few weeks for a new convert and even for a Christian, who has recently come into the local group, represent an adjustment period. Since you were among the first to visit after their response, it would be well for you to feel a special responsibility toward them for at least six months. Keep in touch with them, help them get oriented and adjusted. See that they meet others and find a working relationship with the congregation. VI.
ATTENDS
SOME; HAS NOT “PLACED MEMBERSHIP” -11- 1.
WHAT DO I
HOPE TO ACHIEVE BY THIS VISIT? This person or persons are members of the Church, i.e.; they have been baptized at some time and place in the past. They have since moved into this community and attend services at the congregation most of the time when they go anywhere. They may have lived here only a short time. On the other hand, they may have lived here for a relatively long period of time (Your contact notice may tell). However, they have not indicated either publicly or to the elders or anyone privately that they desire to be a part of the congregation to share its work and be under its overseers. You are to become better acquainted with them by your visit; show an interest in them; aid their relationship with the Church. Represent the work of the congregation in such a way that they will be led to desire and feel a need for fellowship in its activities. Even the example of your own work in calling may be the encouragement they need. 2.
SHOULD I
TELEPHONE BEFORE GOING? It is not necessary, if you would feel more secure if they knew in advance that you were planning to visit them, then be sure to telephone or talk to them at services about it. 3.
WHEN SHOULD
I GO? Attempt to follow through on a visit within the first two weeks of being aware of the situation. There is no particular urgency about this call, especially in the case of a member who has lived in the community for some time. You might be of more assistance to a member who has recently moved here if you call soon after you learn about him. The longer he puts off assuming a working relationship with the congregation, the more difficult it becomes. With regard to the time of day if it is a couple or a male member, evenings or weekends would be the best time. If it were a woman, the afternoon might be better. 4.
SHOULD I GO
ALONE? Yes, if you prefer. If, on the other hand, you desire some one to go with you and your companion isn’t a member or can’t go with you, call on a friend, from the Church to accompany you. It’s usually best for two to make evening calls. 5.
WHAT SHALL I
DO WHEN I GET THERE? Introduce yourself if they do not know you and mention that you’re from the Church. If you have not informed them of your visit in advance, you might indicate that you have just come by for a short visit (and mean it). This will set them at ease in the event they have other plans. Be alert to situations where they seem to be getting ready to leave, etc, and don’t stay. 6.
WHAT SHALL I
TALK ABOUT? Become better acquainted if you don’t know them very well. Ask about the family, what the husband does, number of children, etc. and attempt to establish a personal contact with your family where feasible. ATTENDS SOME HAS NOT PLACED MEMBERSHIP? (Continued) -12- If they have recently moved into this area, inquire about the congregation where they formerly had their fellowship. Find out how many of the family that are members of the Church. Determine if you are able, how active they have been in Church work and attendance in the past. Inform them of our work and services and urge them to have their fellowship with us and to let this desire be known. If they have lived here for some time and have attended some, talk about the work program and plans of the congregation, or evangelism efforts. Emphasize the need for all members in the area getting behind the cause and really accomplishing something. Be enthusiastic about the work and its prospects. 7.
SHOULD I
LEAVE ANY WRITTEN MATERIAL? There is very little pertinent written material available on this problem of: “placing membership.” However, there is a very good article written by Kevin Cauley regarding this topic following this section. This article should help you in your preparation. If they have questions about “placing membership", which you can’t deal with satisfactorily, make arrangements for the preacher or elders to talk with them. 8.
HOW LONG
SHOULD I STAY? If this is your first visit with them, don’t prolong it merely because your time will so allow. A short, friendly visit to get acquainted is much better (15 minutes to an hour should suffice in most cases, depending on the reception and flow of conversation). 9.
WHAT
ARRANGEMENTS SHOULD I MAKE BEFORE LEAVING? Work toward helping them to broaden their participation in the work and services of the congregation. Ask if the children (if any) are in Bible study classes. Ask if they won’t come and bring them the next Sunday if they aren’t attending. If you know them well enough, encourage them to let it be known right away that they are ready to go to work. 10.
WHAT
SHOULD I REPORT? Note the date and time of your visit. Indicate how you were received whether friendly or indifferent, if they have recently moved here, give pertinent information you remember about the family such as number of children, where they last had fellowship, if they plan to work and worship with us, etc. File the report with the elders / at the building. 11.
HOW
WILL THIS REPORT BE USED? It will be added to the contacts made in your zone. Follow-ups, if necessary, can utilize the information gained. Someone else may be able to take the problem you discovered where you left off. 12.
AM I
THROUGH WITH THE CONTACT AFTER THE ONE VISIT? See if they do show an increase in interest after your visit. See if they do “place membership”. Continue to cultivate your friendship with them and show a genuine interest. It may be that as you come to know them better, they will confide in you their problems and you may help remove obstacles. And as you become better acquainted, if you were unable to do so on the first visit, encourage them to let it be known that they want to go to work as a part of the congregation. Why Declare Membership At A Local
Congregation? - By Kevin Cauley This question recently came up in some of my Internet studies with online friends. The question centers on whether or not it is necessary to be identified as a member of a local congregation. The Bible doesn't have a process whereby one may "join" the church such as are followed in the denominational world. However, the Bible does authorize individual Christians to be members of local congregations (1 Corinthians 12:27). So there must be some way for Christians to be members of local congregations. And there is. Let me state up front that for someone who is not a Christian, to become a member of the church of Christ, one must be added by the Lord to the church (Acts 2:47). Upon baptism, provided the individual lives within the local community, it is right and proper to assume the individual to be a member of the local congregation. This was the general practice within the New Testament ( Acts 2:41, 47; 1 Corinthians 12:13). Our question is more appropriately asked when a person moves from his home congregation to another. Must that individual place membership with a local congregation? Let's note some reasons why the answer to this question should be "yes." First, the individual Christian ought to declare membership in a local congregation to assure the leaders that he is subject to their authority. Hebrews 13:17 states, "Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you." The rulers of the local congregation have a responsibility to watch for the souls of individual Christians. Individual Christians have the responsibility to make their job easier by submitting to their judgment. There should be no doubt as to the status of the individual Christian in relationship to the rulers. However, if someone does not declare membership, this creates doubt and uncertainty in the minds of the rulers as to whether they have the appropriate authority. Why? Because rulers only have authority over members of the local congregation; they do not have authority over those who are not members of the local congregation. If the individual Christian seeks to please God in obeying Hebrews 13:17, he will declare membership in a local congregation. Second, the individual Christian ought to declare membership in a local congregation to let his fellow Christians know that he is there to work with them. The church is to be involved in doing the work of the Lord (1 Corinthians 15:58). And each individual contributes to that work as he has ability (1 Peter 4:11). The local congregation is thus expected to do the Lord's work (2 Corinthians 9:8, Colossians 1:10) and the individual is expected to do his work heartily (Colossians 3:23). Without declaring such membership, other members wonder whether or not one has the intentions of involving oneself in the work of the local church, and thus, in the work of the Lord as well. Declaring one's membership with a local congregation, lets that congregation know that one is available and ready to do the work that needs to be done in the local church. Declaring membership exhibits the "heartiness" that the Lord desires us to have regarding his work. Finally, the individual Christian ought to declare membership in a local congregation to indicate his full fellowship with the local congregation. Fellowship isn't merely having a meal together or playing games together. Fellowship is participation within the activities of the congregation, regardless what those activities may be (Acts 2:42). We have fellowship when we study God's word together in our Bible classes, when we worship God in our assembly, when we visit the nursing home together, or when we support a particular work with our finances. The individual Christian should want to have full fellowship with other Christians (1 John 1:7). Without declaring membership at a local congregation, an individual's intentions aren't fully known. However, when one declares membership one indicates full fellowship with the local congregation. The individual Christian certainly has the God given right to faithfully congregate with a particular congregation of his choice (Acts 9:26). However, it is also God's desire for a Christian to be a member of the local church (1 Corinthians 12:18). Combining those two facts together with the above reasons we can conclude that it is biblical and necessary for the individual Christian to declare membership at a local, faithful, congregation of his choice. VII.
HOSPITAL -14- 1.
WHAT DO I
HOPE TO ACHIEVE BY THIS VISIT? In most cases, the contact will be a member of the Church. Otherwise, they will be acquainted with someone who is. In some instances, they may be members of the Church from other cities who are hospitalized here. You may lend cheer, encouragement, news, spiritual strength to the patient. You can also provide companionship to close friends and loved ones of the patient in the event of surgery or serious illness, and perhaps assist in other more tangible ways, especially if they are from out of town. Sometimes there are little tasks you may perform for the patient such as letter writing or errands. The mere fact that you were interested enough to go will be appreciated and accomplishes more than one might think. |